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A 57-year-old businessman, Abdulhamid Yakubu on Monday dragged his ex-wife, Maryam Muhammad before a Shari’a court sitting in Magajin Gari, Kaduna, denying the paternity of a one-year-old boy.

Yakubu, in his petition, said that he raised an alarm on the issue of paternity before the baby was born but the defendant kept saying the child was his.

“Even before I divorced her in March 2021, I told her older sister that the baby was not mine because she moved out of our house without my permission,” he said.

On her part, Muhammad said she gave birth to their son in August 2021 and that the baby belonged to her husband.

After listening to both sides, the judge, Malam Murtala Nasir ordered the parties to present their guardians in court on Sept.16.
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Marriage has three stages. 

The first stage is called honey moon and lasts about two years. This stage is very sweet, nice and romantic. This is where you find names like honey, sweet heart, baby and so on.

In this stage, everything is perfect. This is a stage where a man returns home and dumps his socks and shoes anywhere but in the morning, he will wake up and find them placed where they're supposed to be. This is where madam doesn't go to bed until you return home. She sits in the living room and receives all the mosquito bites waiting for you till you return, take a shower and enjoy supper. Even if you return at midnight, you find her waiting for you. Wait and see what happens in the second stage.

This first stage is beautiful with alot of tolerance. This is a stage where at night while in bed, you release a very toxic gas and your spouse instead apologizes. Remember, you have gassed but again he tells you, "Sorry darling, it's okaaaaaay." This is unbelievable. Madam has gassed but to you, it's okay. Oh my God, this is sweet. Everything is just merry making during this stage. In conclusion, Enjoy this stage for as much as we can.

The second stage lasts for ten years! This is where honey moon is over. This stage is red hot. During this stage, perhaps financial challenges have come in. You have given birth and the children are also disturbing you. Sometimes you are yet to give birth but really want to and the pressure on you is mounting from all corners. Landlords have become Landlords. There is loss of employment. Things are just tight.

Life is hard in this second stage. The man who used to return home early now returns very late. Sometimes he doesn't even return home. There are suspicions of infidelity and cheating. You don't trust each other. You feel your spouse is cheating, and infact he or she is cheating. When you return home and leave your shoes outside, in the morning, you find them where you left them. Things are hot here.

This is a stage where at night, you release a toxic gas and your partner asks what you ate during supper time yet you ate the same meals. He can even leave the bed and spend the night in the sitting room simply because you gassed. Imagine only gassing.

The second stage is hot. There are fights; spiritual, physical and in all aspects. This is the stage where you reach the point of considering separating. Each spouse shows his or her true colours in this stage. A night dancer switches on the reggae, mixes the music and punches the baseline. Your relatives taste the greedy side of your wife.

Those who persevere and overcome this stage end up keeping their marriage till death does them part. However, very many hang up the towel in this stage. They quit. In conclusion, Those who are in this stage should fight a little longer, not to hang up the towel. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Just a little longer and you are done with this heat.

Finally, there's the last stage. This comes after the ten red hot years. This last stage is lukewarm. It's neither cold or hot. You gas at large and no one applauds you or complains. You have seen enough of each other. You have known each other's true colours.

In this stage, whatever your partner does no longer surprises you. If she quarrels, you just say that is the nature of this woman. If he is still late out in the night, you don't even bother to call since you know he will return. If she doesn't serve you food and you feel hungry, you just go and serve food otherwise, hunger hits you for nothing.

This stage is not for disturbing one another. There is alot of calmness and commands are few. This is where if you are watching TV with her in the sitting room and you feel thirsty, you don't send her to bring for you drinking water but only wait when she's moving to the direction where there is water and you tell her if she is coming back, she can come along with some water. If she asks you to repeat what you just said, you have to pretend like you didn't say anything. All of a sudden, she shocks you and returns with drinking water. There is mutual respect in this stage. In conclusion, Those in this stage should just work for eternity. congratulations to those who are in this stage for, they have come from far.

Amen and amen

That's all for today. Maybe the reader of this post can have a reflection. Maybe you can relate to this for those married. Maybe you will relate with this for those who will marry in future. I am also busy writing here but just know perhaps, out of the three stages, I am also somewhere there enjoying or facing one of the stages. Just do a reflection. It might be helpful.

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A mother of 10, Mrs Tolu Osho, has lost her 48-year-old marriage for allegedly denying her husband sex.

An Igando Customary Court in Lagos, on Wednesday, granted the request of her estranged husband, Mojidi, to dissolve the union.

The court president, Mr Adeniyi Koledoye, said that since the petitioner insisted on divorce after several interventions, the court was left with no option other than to grant him his prayer; and pronounced the union dissolved.

“The court hereby pronounces the marriage between Mr Mojidi Osho and Mrs Tolu Osho dissolved today.

“Both of you henceforth cease to be husband and wife.

“Each of you should go his or her separate ways unmolested; the court wishes both of you well in your future endeavours,” Koledoye asserted.

The president ordered the petitioner to pay N250,000 to his wife as severance fee and also pay another N250,000 for her to get a new accommodation.

The petitioner, a 72-year-old mechanic, Mr Mojidi Osho, had earlier told the court to nullify his marriage because his wife was denying him his conjugal right to sleep with her.

“The last time my wife allowed me to sleep with her was 10 years ago.

“I am starving seriously, but whenever I come home with my girlfriends, she will chase them away,” Osho said.

The septuagenarian also accused his wife of threatening to kill him so that she can inherit his property.

“My wife wanted to kill me; she has been feeding me with poison.

“There was a day I fainted and was rushed to the hospital and it was detected that I ate poison.

“I thought I will not survive it, but God saved me and I stopped eating her food,” he said.

The embattled man said his wife was a witch who kept attacking him in the spiritual realm.

“On two occasions, she shot arrows at me in my sleep which led to sicknesses, but God healed me.

“She also buried charm in my workshop and customers stopped patronising me.

“My wife made me impotent, but I survived it after spending huge amount on hospital and herbal treatment,” he claimed.

“Tolu makes my life miserable, I would have gone far in life if I have not married her.

“I regret the day I met her and I wish I can turn back the hand of the clock,’’ Osho said.

According to him, Tolu stopped washing his clothes 27 years ago; he therefore, begged the court to end the marriage to save him from committing murder.

Responding to the allegations, the 68-year-old trader, Tolu, said that she denied her husband sex for only four years not 10 years as he claimed.

“I stopped him from making love to me four years ago when he started bringing different girls home to sleep with, after which he will want to sleep with me; so I refused him,” she stated.

The mother of 10 children denied threatening her husband’s life, or attempting to kill him through poisoning.

“I did not poison my husband’s food since 1973 when we got married, is it now that I will poison him?

“He is just looking for excuses to discard me; he came to this court to divorce his second wife, now he wants to also divorce me so that he can marry a new wife,” Tolu said.

According to her, Osho is fond of invoking curses on their children, which is affecting their lives now.

The respondent begged the court not to grant her husband’s wish for the dissolution of their marriage, saying she still loved him.
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A Gwagwalada Magistrates’ Court, on Wednesday sentenced a 32-year-old housewife, Justice Kayode to six months imprisonment for adultery.

The court, however, granted the second accused bail in the sum of N200,000.

The police charged Kayode, and a civil servant and her alleged partner, Iroghama Charles, 39, both of Chukukun village, Gwagwalada, Abuja, with three counts bordering on criminal conspiracy and adultery by man and a woman.

Magistrate Yusuf Ibrahim sentenced Kayode to six months imprisonment with an option of fine of N5,000, after she pleaded guilty to the charges.

Ibrahim admitted Charles to bail in the sum of N200,000 with two reasonable sureties in like sum.

He ordered that the sureties must reside within the court’s jurisdiction and must have a verifiable address.

He said that the sureties must provide means of identification and must undertake an affidavit to forfeit the bail bond if the defendant jumped bail.

Earlier, the Prosecution Counsel, Abudullahi Tanko, told the court that the complainant, Kayode Akande, who lives in Chukukun Gwagwalada, Abuja reported the matter at the police station on July 13.

Tanko said that while the first defendant was still wife to the complainant, she had sexual intercourse outside her matrimonial home with the second defendant.

He claimed that the act resulted in pregnancy which the defendants terminated.

The prosecutor said that the offences contravened the provisions of sections 96, 388 and 387 of the Penal Code.

The second defendant pleaded not guilty to the charges.
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A jealous soldier James Matol has allegedly shot and killed one Miss Jennifer Agadu, a 200-Level student of Niger Delta University, Amassoma, Bayelsa State.

Security personnel attached to the institution said the body of the 21-year-old student was discovered yesterday with bullet wounds and a finger cut off. A thumb was almost cut off too, suggesting that there was a struggle.

Her room was reportedly scattered and filled with bloodstains.

Matol, who was identified as her lover, was accused of killing her after he allegedly posted some grievous comments on her WhatsApp page, claiming to have murdered her due to cheating and emotional frustration.

The soldier also claimed that he had informed Jennifer’s mother and his own aunt of his action and that two of her friends Vera and Eniye were not giving the deceased good advice.

Commissioner of Police Mike Okoli has ordered discreet investigation of the incident.
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Billionaire benefactors Bill and Melinda Gates, co-founders of one of the world’s largest private charitable foundations, filed for divorce on Monday after 27 years of marriage but pledged to continue their philanthropic work together.

The Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation has become one of the most powerful and influential forces in global public health, spending more than $50 billion over the past two decades to bring a business approach to combating poverty and disease.

The Gates have backed widely praised programs in malaria and polio eradication, child nutrition and vaccines. The foundation last year committed some $1.75 billion to COVID-19 relief.

In a joint petition for dissolution of marriage, the couple asserted their legal union was “irretrievably broken,” but said they had reached agreement on how to divide their marital assets. No details of that accord were disclosed in the filing in King County Superior Court in Seattle.

Bill Gates, 65, who co-founded Microsoft Corp, and his spouse, Melinda French Gates, 56, met after she joined the software giant as a product manager, and they dated for a few years before marrying in January 1994 in Hawaii.

“After a great deal of thought and a lot of work on our relationship, we have made the decision to end our marriage,” the two said in a joint statement posted on each of their individual Twitter accounts.

“We no longer believe we can grow together as a couple in the next phase of our lives. We ask for space and privacy for our family as we begin to navigate this new life,” they said.

The divorce petition, which states that the couple have no minor children, comes after the youngest of their three offspring recently turned 18.

Launched in 2000, the nonprofit Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation ranks as the largest private philanthropic foundation in the United States and one of the world’s biggest, with net assets of $43.3 billion at the end of 2019, according to the latest full-year financials shown on its website.

From 1994 through 2018, the couple gifted more than $36 billion to the Seattle-based foundation, the website said.

Last year, investor Warren Buffett reported donating more than $2 billion of stock from his Berkshire Hathaway Inc to the Gates Foundation as part of previously announced plans to give away his entire fortune before his death.

‘NO CHANGES TO THEIR ROLES’

In their divorce petition, the couple asks the court “to dissolve our marriage” and to divide their communal property, business interests and liabilities “as set forth in our separation contract,” though that accord was not made public.

Bill Gates is ranked No. 4 on the Forbes list of the world’s wealthiest individuals, with an estimated $124 billion fortune.

In a separate statement, the Gates Foundation said the couple would remain as co-chairs and trustees of the organization.

“They will continue to work together to shape and approve foundation strategies, advocate for the foundation’s issues, and set the organization’s overall direction,” the foundation’s statement said.

The split comes two years after another leading Seattle-based billionaire and philanthropist, Amazon.com Inc founder Jeff Bezos, said that he and his then-wife, MacKenzie, were getting divorced.

At least one critic of billionaire benefactors cited the Gates‘ split as a cautionary tale in the wisdom of concentrating so much sway over global humanitarian issues under the control of super-wealthy individuals.

“The Gates divorce will do more than upend a family’s life. It will ramify into the worlds of business, education, public health, civil society, philanthropy, and beyond,” Anand Giridharadas, author of the book “Winners Take All” told Reuters.

“That is because our society has made the colossal error of allowing wealth to purchase the chance to make quasi-governmental decisions as a private citizen,” he said.

Gates dropped out of Harvard University to start Microsoft with school chum Paul Allen in 1975. Gates owned 49% of Microsoft at its initial public offering in 1986, which made him an instant multimillionaire. With Microsoft’s explosive growth, he soon became one of the world’s wealthiest individuals.

After an executive tenure in which he helped transform the company into one of the world’s leading technology firms, Gates stepped down as CEO of Microsoft in 2000 to focus on philanthropy. He remained chairman until 2014 and left the company’s board in March 2020.

Known in the technology industry as an acerbic and ruthless competitor, Gates drew the ire of rivals and eventually the U.S. government for Microsoft’s business practices.

The software giant was convicted of antitrust violations in the late 1990s. But the verdict was overturned on appeal, and the company then settled the case out of court.

Gates‘ public persona softened into an avuncular elder statesman as he turned his attention to philanthropy, and he has largely steered clear of the many controversies currently roiling the technology business.

Melinda French Gates, who recently added her maiden name on most of her websites and social media, was raised in Dallas and studied computer science and economics at Duke University before joining Microsoft.

In 2015 she founded Pivotal Ventures, an investment company focused on women and families, and in 2019 published a book, “The Moment of Lift”, centered on female empowerment.

Wealth and philanthropy of Bill and Melinda Gates

BILL GATES

Bill Gates is the world’s fourth-richest person with a net worth of $130.5 billion, according to Forbes.

Gates dropped out of Harvard University to co-found technology giant Microsoft with school friend Paul Allen in 1975. Gates owned 49% of Microsoft at its initial public offering in 1986, which made him an instant multi-millionaire.

With Microsoft’s explosive growth, he soon became the world’s richest person. He has since lost that title, partly by donating money to philanthropic causes. He was also overtaken due to growth at other companies. Amazon.com Inc founder Jeff Bezos and Tesla Inc Chief Executive Elon Musk are No. 1 and 2 on the Forbes wealth list.

GATES FOUNDATION

The couple established the Seattle-based Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation in 2000. It is one of the world’s largest charitable organizations, with a focus on public health, education and climate change.

Its grants included some $1.75 billion to vaccine initiatives, diagnostics and research during the coronavirus pandemic.

The foundation ended 2019 with net assets of $43.3 billion, the last full-year financials disclosed on its website.

The foundation spent $5 billion in 2019 on programs in the United States and around the world, excluding management costs.

From 1994 through 2018, Bill and Melinda Gates gave the foundation more than $36 billion, according to the foundation’s website. Warren Buffett has donated more than $29 billion of his fortune to the Gates Foundation since 2006, according to filings.

DIVISION OF ASSETS

The couple, who have three children, have a custom mansion with a 2020 assessed value of $130.8 million, according to the King County Department of Assessments, on Lake Washington, which lies between Seattle and its eastside suburbs including Redmond, where Microsoft is headquartered.

The financial details of their split remain unclear. They are seeking division of joint assets, according to a separation agreement they have reached, filed in King County Superior Court.

As one of few community property Washington state law presumes that most property acquired over the course of a marriage belongs jointly to the spouses and is divided equally in a divorce.

The spouses can also agree that certain assets are separate property, meaning they belong to one of them. Inheritances often fall in this category.


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An Ile-Tuntun Customary Court in Ibadan on Wednesday dissolved a 15-year-old marriage between a mechanic, Adeyemi Bamigbola and his wife, Bidemi over alleged infidelity.

Delivering judgment, Chief Henry Agbaje, the President of the court held that he dissolved the relationship between Bidemi and Bamigbola in the interest of peace.

Agbaje awarded custody of the two children to Bidemi and ordered Bamigbola to pay N10,000 as a monthly upkeep allowance for the children.

Earlier, Bamigbola, approached the court seeking divorce on grounds that his wife was an unrepentant adulterer.

”She was once arrested by the Police in Oyo with her lover, popularly known as Jomo.

Bidemi, a businesswoman accused her husband of being irresponsible.

“Bamigbola has not catered for the two children and I. When our landlord attempted to evict us for nonpayment of house rent, I obtained a loan to settle the debt.

“Worst still, Bamigbola is a reckless drunk and a womaniser.

“He brings women to our matrimonial bed and vomits in the room whenever he is hungover,” Bidemi said.
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A Customary Court in Ekiti on Wednesday ‎dissolved a 32-year-old marriage between Mr. Oladipo Ogunleye and his wife, Adeola Falade over failure to pay dowry.

The President of the Court, Mrs. Yemisi Ojo, dissolved the union on the grounds that Ogunleye beats Falade.

Delivering judgment, Ojo held that it is evident that no marriage exists between the parties but a mere cohabitation .

She ordered both parties to go their separate ways as they stand unmarried.

“The petitioner is advised to build a cordial relationship with his five children. I advice the respondent to encourage all the children to spend holidays with their father in order to maintain the bond between the father and his children.

“The court orders the petitioner to be involved in his children’s lives by paying their school fees. Both parties are advised to maintain peace,” she said, adding that should any of the parties violate the order, the wrath of the law would be meted out against such a person.

Earlier, the petitioner, Ogunleye, 61, and a mechanic, in his evidence state, that there is no marriage between him and the respondent but they have five children.

The petitioner told the court that while they were living together, he was fully responsible for the upkeep of the home and the children but since the respondent left with the children, he ceased to be responsible for their welfare.

Ogunleye, however, prayed to the court for the dissolution of his association with the respondent and the same time, solicits for the custody of his fifth child.

Falade, 48, a public servant, denied the allegations.

My husband beats me and chases after me. He also threatens to send me out of his house,” she said.
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A nurse, Shukurat Adewumi, on Monday sought the dissolution of her 17-year-old marriage to husband, Adewale, in a Customary Court sitting at Mapo in Ibadan on grounds that he forced to have 15 abortions.

Shukurat, a mother of three, made the claim in her counter argument before Chief Ademola Odunade, the court’s President .

”He forced me to have abortion 15 times, putting my life at risk.

”He denied paternity of my three children.

“Some years ago when he left me to live with his concubine, Adewale returned home well ill and I took care of him.

“For the past two years, he declined paternity of our last child and recently came home to steak the only gas cooker we have.

“Adewale smashed the cylinder on my forehead because I tried to prevent him from taking it away.

“I fainted and was hospitalized, his parents and relatives are all aware of his evil against me.

“Adewale has married two wives elsewhere,” Shukurat said.

In his earlier account, Adewale, a factory worker said that he filed the suit due to his wife’s constant threat on his life.

“Never did I know that she was a hooligan and street fighter when I got married to her.

“She has caused me so much embarrassment and I can no longer withstand it.

“I want custody of my children if she remarries,” Adewale stated.

Delivering judgment, Odunade who was represented by Alhaji Suleiman Apanpa dissolved the marriage in the interest of peace.

He awarded custody of the three children to the respondent and ordered the petitioner to pay N15,000 as their monthly feeding allowance.

He also directed Adewale to be responsible for their education and other welfare.
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A Chief Magistrates’ Court on Monday ordered a 20-year-old woman, Mary Idris, and her boyfriend, Olawusi Victor, 18, for faking her kidnap, to undergo two weeks counseling, to be supervised by the Registrar.

Delivering her ruling, Chief Magistrate Adefumike Anoma, also ordered Idris and Victor to engage in two weeks community service to be supervised by the Ekiti State Judicial Chief Security Officer.

Anoma frowned at Idris’ actions and warned her to stay in school.

The police charged Idris and Victor, whose addresses were not given with conspiracy and self-kidnap.

Earlier, the Prosecution or Inspector Monica Ikebuilo, told the court that the defendants committed the offence on Aug. 9 at about 4 p.m in Ado-Ekiti.

She alleged that Idris, caused breach of peace by concealing her whereabouts and demanded ransom from her parents, saying she was kidnapped.

“Idris and her boyfriend, stayed in a stayed in a guest house in Akure for four days to have fun.

“Due to lack of transportation fare ack to Ado-Ekiti by Idris, she sent an alarming message, seeking ransom from her parents,’’ she said.

The offence, she said, contravened the provisions of Section 249 (a) (ii) of the Criminal Code, Laws of Ekiti State, 2012.

The defendants pleaded not guilty.

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A mother of three, Oluwayemisi Ajakaye, on Wednesday sought dissolution of her 12-year-old marriage to husband, Segun, at a Mapo Customary Court in Ibadan, on grounds that he calls compares her to a pig.

In her testimony in court, she said:” he also calls me a goat and a prostitute. He beats me and I have evidence of the injuries he has inflicted on me.

”He accuses me of falsely of infidelity. For many years now, Segun never allowed me a moment’s rest. He accuses me of sleeping with my siblings, neighbours in the market and even our Pastor”.

She alleged that Segun calls her mother on phone, threatening to kill her in their presence.

However, the respondent, was neither present nor represented in court to defend the allegations leveled against him.

The bailiff informed the Arbitrators that Segun was duly served hearing notices on three separate occasions.

Chief Ademola Odunade, the President of the Court, led two other arbitrators; Alhaji Suleiman Apanpa and Alhaji Rafiu Raji, to grant the petitioner’s prayers.

Odunade awarded custody of the three children to the petitioner and ordered Segun to pay a monthly allowance of N15,000 for the children’s upkeep
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A Mapo Customary Court in Ibadan, on Thursday dissolved a 14-year-old marriage between one Bukola Akinyode and Azeez on grounds of reckless and flamboyant lifestyle.

The President of the court, Chief Ademola Odunade, held that divorce was granted in the interest of peace and tranquility.

Odunade awarded custody of the first two children to the respondent and the other two to the complainant.

He ordered Azeez to pay N10, 000 as the children’s monthly feeding allowance in addition to be responsible for their education and other welfare.

Earlier, Bukola, a trader who resides in Omi-Apata area in Ibadan said that she was no longer willing to continue in the relationship with her husband anymore because of Azeez’s treatment.

She added that her husband inflicts her with wounds using a machete whenever they had a disagreement.

“Sometimes, Azeez locks me out and I am forced to take refuge in a nearby mosque for safety.

“Azeez lives a very flamboyant life in the neighbourhood. He drinks with reckless abandonment without catering for his children.

“His lifestyles often deceives people into believing that all is well with us without knowing that his wife and children are starving.

“Besides, whenever my parents give me money to start a business, Azeez takes it from me,” Bukola stated.

The respondent consented to the suit and denied all the allegations leveled against him.

Azeez, a truck driver argued that he gave his consent for separation because his wife was troublesome to handle.

“It is true that I sometimes borrow money from her and on each occasion I refunded her, but she keeps asking me as if I am a debtor.

“The reason why I locked her out was because she is a disobedient wife.

“After armed robbers attacked us one night, I decided that nobody should stay out late, but Bukola continued to attend to her customers who are mostly male.

”I have been responsible to the children,” Azeez said.
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Mrs Kafila Ogunsina, a mother of four, on Thursday, prayed an Ile-tuntun Customary Court in Ibadan, to dissolve her 12-year marriage to Rafiu, on the grounds that he was slowing her “economic breakthrough”.

Kafilat, a seamstress, told the court that she had not made any financial headway since she married Rafiu,12 years ago.

“Ever since I stepped into Rafiu’s house as a wife, nothing has worked for me. I have remained stagnant; moreover, he beats me like a slave.

“Rafiu also destroyed the little property I took into his house,” Kafilat explained.

Giving evidence before the court, Rafiu, however, opposed the dissolution of the marriage, but did not deny the allegations leveled against him.

Rafiu, a bricklayer, simply asked the court to help him plead with his wife not to abandon him.

“Please my lord, don’t separate us. She is my life, she is a good homemaker.

“I might never be able to get anyone like her,” Rafiu said.

The President of the court, Chief Henry Agbaje, advised the petitioner to exercise more patience.

Agbaje directed the embattled couple to produce their relatives in court at the next sitting and adjourned the case until Aug. 13 for judgment.
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A middle aged woman has reportedly attempted suicide over undisclosed marital challenges in Nnewi area of Anambra state.

The victim whose name was given on her Facebook page as Ifeoma Obiora had in two separate posts claimed she was contemplating taking her life in order to be far from her troubles.

She also said her problem was compounded as nobody was willing to hear her out or do anything about her plights.

She said, “In these moments before my departure, I feel more clarity than I have ever felt in my dull life. In one minute, I will be free from the voices, from the pain, and from you.”

“Nobody listened. Nobody cared.”

Reacting, Police spokesperson, Haruna Mohammed said preliminary findings by the Police who had established contact with her showed she was in a troubled marriage and was seeking divorce.

He said her challenges were civil but the Command had invited the couple for counselling.

He said, “The Area Commander Nnewi has gotten her. She has a family problem and was seeking for divorce.

“Although her problem is civil in nature but leaving her in that condition could lead to something else since she is threatening to take her life.

“Hence the Area Commander has invited her and her husband tomorrow morning for further counselling.”
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An engineer, Abidemi Dada, on Friday prayed a Customary Court in Mapo, Oyo, to dissolve his 13 year-old marriage to Opeyemi because she denies him of sex.

Testifying in court, Dada, who lives in Oke-Bola area of Ibadan, said: my life has not been the same since my wife began the strange behaviour of constantly denying me of sex.

My wife also ignored our pastor’s advice. There is no peace in our marriage. She also insults me,” he said.

Chief Ademola Odunade, the President of the court, urged the relatives of the couple to counsel them.

Odumade observed that there was still sign of love between the two and enjoined them to exercise patience.

He adjourned the case until Aug. 6 for judgment.
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Dame Edith Okowa

Dame Edith Okowa, wife of Delta governor and founder of 05 Initiative, has stressed the need for couples to allow God’s blessing to manifest in their marriages by continually renewing bond of love for each other.

She stated this at the 2020 edition of Couples’ Forum, an annual fellowship, organized by 05 Initiative, with "God’s Original Plan for Marriage" as theme.

The fellowship designed to strengthen relationships among couples which held on Friday in Asaba, was broadcast live on Delta Broadcasting Service television and radio as well as social media platforms.

The governor's wife explained that the home building programme was to commemorate World Day of the family, and stressed the need for couples to communicate often in their marriages.

She urged married persons to always study the Bible to understand God's original plan for instituting marriage.

According to Dame Okowa, the keys to a successful marriage include communication, love and trust among couples; when you cannot communicate with one another then there is no marriage.

She stated that one of the benefits of prevailing lockdown in some states in the country occasioned by COVID-19 was the opportunity provided for families to bond.

The governor’s wife added that without a couple leaving their parents and clinging to one another, problems of interference would continue to be witnessed in most marriages.

She remarked that these days, couples spent much energy and resources to prepare for wedding but never prepared for the marriage itself, and called for more counseling to would-be couples.

"We have been doing this every year, but this year's programme is unique because of the prevailing COVID-19 pandemic.

"As the Bible says, in every situation give thanks; this year's edition is not holding in our usual venue where we usually have about 500 people listening.

"We are doing it here on live TV, radio and social media platforms because of the social-distancing protocol, but we are glad because this year, we are having more people listening to us than ever and we give God thanks for that.

"One of the things we learnt today is that for you to have a successful marriage, you must leave your parents to cling to your partner because without leaving there cannot be any cleaving and once there is no bonding, the marriage cannot stand the test of time.

"Another learning point from today's discussion is that both couples must learn to love, respect and appreciate one another for there to be a successful marriage.

"Men should not deal treacherously with the wives of their youth because if they do so their prayers will be hindered," she stated.

One of the discussants, Pastor David Popoola of Living Faith Church, Asaba, said that partners in a marriage must learn to apologise when they were wrong and also appreciate one another at all times.

"The word 'I am sorry' and an appreciation of 'thank you' can do a lot of good in every home. You must learn to appreciate your partner and stop looking for faults and errors, study the word of God and pray together with the children," he stated.

Provincial Pastor of Redeemed Christian Church of God, Asaba, Pastor Olutomi Sodeinde, stressed the need for couples to return to God to fulfill the original plan for them in marriage.

"Having moved away from God’s plan, all we need to do is to move back to God's plan. Divorce and adultery are not part of God's original plan for marriage.

``So, if we must go back to God's plan, it means we must leave so that we can cleave, once you don't leave, you cannot cleave.

"Many people are married today but they are still lonely. We need to reverse this because it is almost becoming a common thing today and it was not so in the beginning.

``We should repent and go back to our God because when we return to Him, He will return to us" he said.

In her contribution, Dr (Mrs) Augusta Ogbene, Coordinator of Christian Women Intercessors for All Nations (CWIFAN), said that marriage was God's plan to make man enjoy life in terms of procreation, companionship.

She, however, said ``unfortunately, man has deviated by doing things outside God's plan and purpose for marriage.

"If there is no trust between couples then there is no marriage. Couples should build trust among themselves because a relationship cannot continue without trust and honesty.

"We must learn to forgive one another, particularly we, the women, because no human being is worth going to hell for.

``You are playing with high blood pressure for as long as you have unforgiveness and bitterness in your heart. You must also learn to respect and appreciate one another because no family can survive without respect for one another.

"Married people today have all manner of issues because they have decided to do things their own way instead of doing things in Gods original plan for marriage.

"You can imagine a woman getting married to her dog in the UK. These things are an affront to the purpose of God for marriage and so there is no way it cannot be visited with the punishment it deserves,’’ she said.
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Relate found 12% of people stuck indoors with their partner were re-evaluating their future togeth

Britain could be heading for a post-lockdown “relationship reckoning”, a charity has warned, with one in eight people saying the current situation is leading to doubts about their other half.

Relate found 12% of people stuck indoors with their partner were re-evaluating their future together, jumping to 21% among those aged 25 to 34.

A survey of 2,021 UK adults revealed 22% of men and 31% of women are finding their partner irritating at the moment, and that almost a quarter of couples were having more rows than normal.

Money woes caused by the shutdown were a factor, with over a quarter of respondents saying cash was causing more problems than usual.

Parents with children living at home were also finding things tough, with 34% saying it was difficult to create structure for them, and 24% saying children’s behaviour had become an issue.

Aidan Jones, chief executive of Relate, said: “We always see a peak in people seeking relationship support after Christmas, when spending unusually long together brings issues to the surface.

“Add to that the current extended period of isolation, worries about job security, finances, how to juggle work with childcare and uncertainty about the future – and it’s clear why we’re expecting a post-lockdown relationship reckoning.”

He urged people to consider webcam or telephone counselling before their relationship reaches crisis point.

Mr Jones said: “People coming to us for support are saying that the Covid-19 pandemic and its repercussions are magnifying existing issues.

“Everyone’s trying their best to get through whilst stuck under one roof but that door won’t stay closed forever, which is why we’re urging anyone experiencing issues to get in touch now rather than letting things fester until things get irreparably bad.”

The charity said it was important to note that 65% of those in relationships said they felt supported by their partner, while 43% said lockdown had brought them closer together.

The extra time together did not necessarily translate into greater intimacy, with only 17% of couples saying they were having more sex than usual.


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Two years after a marriage was contracted between a trader, Mrs Pauline John and her husband, Joseph, the union was dissolved by an Igando Customary Court in Lagos on Monday over alleged deceit.

The court president, Mr Adeniyi Koledoye, while delivering judgment, said that Joseph was not in court to defend the allegations levelled against him.

“Throughout the duration of this case, the respondent did not honour court processes, therefore, the court has no other choice but to dissolve the marriage.

“The court pronounced the marriage between Mrs Pauline John and Mr Joseph John dissolved today; both parties henceforth ceased to be husband and wife.

“Each of you should go his or her separate ways unmolested, the court wishes both of you well in your future endeavours.

“The custody of the only child of the marriage is awarded to Pauline while Joseph must be paying N10, 000 monthly for the child’s feeding and must also be responsible for his education and general welfare,” he said.

Koledoye ordered Joseph to pay a severance of N400,000 to his wife for her to move on with her life.

The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports that Pauline had earlier approached the court seeking to end her two years marriage, claiming her husband deceived her into the marriage.

She said that after she was delivered of their child, her husband told her that their marriage was over, that he had got what he was looking for.

“Immediately I gave birth to our son, my husband told me that the marriage has ended and that he married me to have a child and now that I have given him a son, I should move on with my life.

“He requested me to return the bride price, as fast as possible. I initially refused but when the pressure was much, my family refunded the bride price. The 28-year-old petitioner accused her husband of infidelity.

“Joseph started flirting with women of different sizes, shapes and colours. He abandoned me,” she said.
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A mother of four, Mrs Janet Ayoola, lost her 39-year-old marriage to her husband, Olajide Ayoola, for denying him sex for seven years.

An Igando Customary Court in Lagos on Monday granted the request of Janet’s estranged husband, Olajide, for dissolution of the marriage.

The Court’s President, Mr Adeniyi Koledoye, said that since the petitioner insisted on divorce after several interventions, the court was left with no option than to grant him his wish.

“The court hereby pronounces the marriage between Mr Olajide Ayoola and Mrs Janet Ayoola dissolved today. Both of you henceforth cease to be husband and wife.

“Two of you should go on your separate ways unmolested. The court wishes both of you well in your future endeavour,” Koledoye ruled.

He, however, ordered Olajide to pay a severance of N200, 000 to Janet for her to move on with her life.

The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports that the 70-year-old pensioner had earlier approached the court to terminate his marriage, accusing his wife of starving him of sex.

“Janet who stayed under the same roof with me refused me to make love to her for good seven years. She will not even allow me to touch her, let alone sleep with her,” the petitioner told the court.

Ayoola said that his wife wanted to terminate his life so as to inherit his property.

“She had attacked me both physically and spiritually,” he said.

The embittered husband said that Janet lacked care for him.

“My wife had to employ some domestic staff who came to wash my clothes and cooked for me.

“Janet was an ungrateful woman. I had established businesses for her severally but the businesses collapsed due to her inability to manage them well.

“ My wife is a fighter; she fights me and everybody on the street,” Ayoola said.

The petitioner said that the respondent lacked respect for him and also instigated their children against him.

He pleaded with the court to end their marriage on the ground of lack of love.

“Please court terminate our marriage because my wife may succeed one day by killing me in my sleep,” he begged.

The respondent denied all the allegations.

She made a fervent plea to the court not to annul their marriage, saying that she still loved her husband.

The 58-year-old businesswoman said that she did not starve her husband of sex.

“My husband asked me to leave our room for another room, claiming I snored.

“I never made any attempt to kill my husband nor instigated any of our children against him,” Janet said.

The mother of four said that her husband always refused her food for reason best known to him.
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A housewife, Risikat Ajape, on Wednesday asked an Area Court in Ilorin to dissolve her 13-year-old marriage to husband, Ambali on grounds that she no longer loves him.

“My lord, I want an end to this marriage because I no longer love Ambali. I cannot continue to make myself unhappy.

He is an irresponsible man. He does not care for our three children anymore,” she alleged.

She prayed the court to grant her custody of the children and order Ambali to pay N15,000 as children’s school fees and feeding allowance monthly.

Responding, Ambali prayed the court to grant his wife’s prayer for divorce.

He however, said that he cannot afford to the N15,000 monthly for the school fees and feeding,

The presiding Judge, Abdulkadri Ibrahim, dissolved the marriage based on the agreement reached by the parties.

Ibrahim issued certificate of divorce and ordered the petitioner to wait for three months before she remarries.